And Then There Was Abuse...Part Two by Kendrick

Even if the average person thinks she should leave him its still hard to do. Besides, I did tell her to leave him… three years ago. I’ve come to realize though. For victims of such things it is hard to do if not done immediately after the first encounter. And if one says they’re leaving or leaves for that matter, and returns, it may feel next to
impossible for them to actually leave again. This because they’re abusive non-better half have noticed the fear and wants to implant more fear in them so that they won’t leave.

Since she did make it out the house alive yet another time and was brave enough to press charges I did say leave him once more. The fact that she told him she wanted out, fought to get out, and pressed charges once she got out is a sign that all of her fight is not gone. Not only that, there is hope for her to find someone that cares for her. But even still the fight is far from over and many people realize that each day. Just as she told me, she still almost went back . And just because she spoke with me and relieved some of her pain, a ten minute conversation relieves eight years of pain and stress on the molecular level. But it does help and from this point it is honestly too early to say if she really is strong enough to carry on if she’ll go back.

The heart and mind is
strong, but fear and manipulation is just as strong if not stronger in some cases.
But it must be stated that while pain is love, abuse is not. There is some emotional pain and possibly some physical pain that goes with love and relationships. But none come from a fist or foot or anything from the one that says they love you. I am not sorry to say that I am most certain that is NOT love. It is envy, hate, jealousy, greed, and many other things. It is not love. It is wrong. It is also a overlooked crime known as spousal abuse. You don’t have to be married to be a victim of spousal abuse. And the younger generations such as the one that I have the duty of setting an example for are learning the wrong things from the wrong sources. The responsibility that goes behind even saying that you love someone is great. And many of us look to the wrong things for that. Many of us look to the stars that or seen on television screens. Yes… actors and entertainers. We look to the love of money and the, “love of” in general.

It really goes much further than that. Love is a commitment, especially in the world of relationships. Love is a spiritual binding contract that says, “I will be there for you through your hard times” not be the cause of the hard times. At least not purposely. None of us are perfect and will never be. Or job is to try.